The Band Boston Fan Site - What I have to say...[Pamela Sullivan]

What I have to say...[Pamela Sullivan]

On Christmas Day, 2006, Brad Delp asked me to marry him. Our wedding was to be on August 18th, marking seven years together. We shared a special bond that will be with me all my life. Bradley lived a private life, and I had hoped that his death might also be private.

But Bradley - his music and his heart - touched many lives, and we all feel the pain of his loss. For many, the loss of a beautiful voice, but more importantly, the loss of a beautiful person. We are all grieving.

In our grief, we look for answers, for reasons, and perhaps for blame. In the days that have passed since his death there has been a great deal of speculation and rumor put forward by the media and the Boston (band) fan base as to why he chose to end his life. Words have been taken out of context, statements have been misconstrued, and people have been hurt. People are looking for answers, and there are none to be had.

Bradley blamed no one, held no one accountable, for what was in his own heart. His music, his business, his relationships, these were the things that brought him joy. His sadness came from within; it was his own. He wanted no one to carry his burdens, in life or in death.

Bradley had the great gift of being able to love all and to understand all: his compassion for everyone he met was the essence of his soul. He would not want anyone to feel responsible for the path his life took.

I can only ask that we honor his memory, and his great legacy of compassion, and let him rest in the peace he so deserves, as we all begin to heal.

~Pamela Sullivan March 23, 2007

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Don Meadows said:

Pamela,
I just have to say that I am sorry for your loss. I was first turned on to Boston in the early 80's and they are still my favorite band.

But I must say the thing that got my attention the most was the wikipedia site report on Brad Delp in the section labeled "Later life and death" I read this quote "Mr. Brad Delp. Je suis une âme solitaire. I am a lonely soul." This has ripped out my heart. In 1998 I found myself empty and with no hope but then something happened, someone told me about Jesus Christ. He filled the emptyness of my soul. I do not want to be a bible thumper, but when I read this I can not help myself from sharing the hope I found in knowing Christ. Do not get me wrong, I still face hardships and troubles but the difference is that now I am not alone. I am a friend of God.

I would love to talk more about this with you or with anyone that is interested.

Don Meadows

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Les Johnson said:

	Thanks again Pamela for reaching out to all of us. We desire healing just as well and you have truly helped so many of us in doubt of what is going on. We love you and wish nothing but good things for your life. RIP Bradley Delp!!!!!!!!!
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Les Johnson said:

Hey Pam, First of all I want to say that we are all feeling the pain of the loss of Brad but mos impotantly the pain some people have put upon others to blame Brad's death on someone other than Brad. We love the legacy of Brad and what he and Tom gave to the world of Rock n Roll. I wish I could have been blessed to have known him personally. All I have is his music and the memories that I have in my own life thanks to the music Tom and Brad made come alive in our heats and lives. They both, along with the band made life alittle more bearable. I hope some people will get over themselves and and let Brad rest in peace and let all of us celebrate his legacy and The legacy that include his humanitarian efforts and the gift of love he gave to whoever he came in contact with whether it was in person or through his music. We all love you and hope that we can all get through this together. We love you Pam

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Melissa Burby said:

	Perfectly stated, Pamela. Thank you for that. Blessings of PEACE to the most beautiful voice in my lifetime, truly! Healing love sent to those fortunate enough to share his life personally. A life honored with generosity, heart, divine talent and enormous love!
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Mike said:

	Thanks Pam for your ability to get out here and speak to us during your time of greiving. I grew up listening to 'Boston' during the late 70's/early 80's and was very much touched by the work that Brad did. To this day, my favorite band is still 'Boston' and I don't think that a band of such magnitude will ever grace my life again. Rest well Brad, and thanks Pam.
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Jim B said:

	God bless you Pamela.I hope you can find happiness in your life.I feel a sense of closure from your post. I want to thank you for speaking up and I truly hope your words help other people as well as they have helped me.I never met Bad but i feel like i have lost a family member. Take care of yourself!!
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